***FYI if you haven’t seen One Tree Hill and it’s on your watchlist, don’t read this cause it has a spoiler in it! It’s a great show and I love it, so if you haven’t seen it you should!***
So here I am watching One Tree Hill on Netflix and it’s the episode where *SPOILER ALERT* Peyton and Lucas get married. During the wedding, best friend Haley pulls out Lucas’ resolution list from when he was in the eighth grade. On that list, it said that Peyton Sawyer would become Peyton Scott. Haley then continues to tell those in the audience that they are witnessing a dream come true. I couldn’t help but tear up during that moment. Partly because it was a beautiful moment and partly because I wish I could have something like that happen in my life.
How many of us have gone through life dreaming of being with the person we love, but because “life happens” we miss out on the opportunity or they end up loving someone else?
Twice in my life have I had a guy that I really loved/liked and I wish I had said something to them before they got married. I cried when I heard they were engaged, but then when the wedding ceremony was over I realized I really didn’t love them as much as the woman who was marrying them. I realized that those guys were really more like friends to me. One even feels more like a brother, and I don’t know what I would do without him and his wife in my life. They are truly a blessing.
But there are a couple of times where I have kept in my heart the love I had for a guy. Once I have told him, and one I still keep in my heart. These two men are the ones where one I lost a friendship and one where I would never tell him how I feel for fear of what would happen. I don’t know why it is that there are times when we can never be truly honest with the people we should be safe to be honest with. One of these men has changed so much that he’s not the person I knew and the other I feel like only talks to me when he needs me to help him with something. However, these men will always be a part of my life that I will have learned from. I look to the future and am anxious to see who the man I am meant to be with will show up, because I know that he has to be an amazing person.
To you lost hearts this is what I have to say to you, if you really want to know if he or she loves you then you will have to prepare for the best or the worst. I have told someone how I felt and it didn’t go so well, but that doesn’t always happened.
What I can tell you is that you are still awesome! I can tell you that there is someone out there for you. I can tell you not to give up. I can tell you that if all you seem to think about is that other person, find a hobby, or get lost in your job. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself. If you do then you will wallow in your heartache and it will do more harm to you then it will to them. If they are a part your social media circle, unfollow them so that can move on. Once you have moved on you could probably reconnect. Till then, focus on being a better you.
Life’s too short to pine over someone. Be patient and wait for that head over heels love. Don’t settle for humdrum, so-so love. It’s not worth it. That is why I say dreams almost come true. Sometimes the dream that we have for ourselves is not as wonderful as the dream that will come true!